Sexual voice is your right to verbal sexual expression. However, absence of that voice is most common issue most of my clients deal with. Most of us lost our sexual voices when we were young, causing us sexual disempowerment.
how does absence of sexual voice look like in daily life?
Some of the examples:
Not expressing your sexual desires with partners
Being ashamed of using sexual vocabulary
No being able to say "no"
Not verbalizing your sexual concerns
Feeling discomfort talking about sexual topics
Feeling menstrual shame
Being quite during sexual intercourse
what are the causes?
Multiple events and experiences can impact your sexual expression. Several but certainly not limited to
Not talking about sexual topic while growing up
Being shut down when asking about sexual topics
Physical and verbal sexual abuse
Experience of shame
Hearing from parents/guardians that talking about sex is inappropriate
Learning that sex is dirty
Religious and spiritual teachings....
Lack of sex education or shame based sex education
Feelings of being objectified
Fearful sexual experiences
PRICE WE PAY FOR BEING QUITE?
Not being able to speak about healthy sexuality with our kids and partners
Not experiencing pleasure in sexual relationship
Sexual shame not allowing us to live fully
STI's and STD's
Lack of orgasms
Lack of intimacy in relationship
Sexual Discomfort creating distance
Disconnect from self and others
Missing on all the fun and joy sexuality holds
Living inauthentic lives
How strong is your sexual voice? Can you easily express your sexual desires and sexual fears?
What is missing? How do you use your sexual vocabulary?